Author A.R. Moxon has recently invited all men to participate in an exercise of empathy. He reframed women’s experiences with assault and sexual violence and presented it in a way that most guys should comprehend… ‘getting kicked in the nuts’.
At first, it sounds silly but it doesn’t after you read the whole thing, especially as Moxon wrote this within the recent context of Judge Brett Kavanaugh, having been confirmed to the US Supreme Court, the world being hit by a huge wave of anger and protest, highlighting the problems that surround sexual abuse and assault.
Moxon told Bored Panda: ‘Speaking on the societally-macro level, empathy has been largely a one-way street when it comes to gender dynamics. In my experience, women are empathetic toward men, while men tend not to be particularly empathetic toward women.
'Put another way, women have to think about what men are feeling as a matter of survival. Men aren’t in a similar situation, and so, if they don’t want to, they don’t. And, by and large, we don’t want to.'
'When women tell their stories of living with danger and vulnerability, and of survival from assault, our first instinct appears to be to protect ourselves from personal culpability and accountability; we certainly saw that dynamic play out as the Kavanaugh story developed.’
Moxon added that his analogy, like any other, is imperfect, and he has received a lot of feedback since he hit ‘send’, both positive and negative.
‘I chose nut-kicking because there isn’t a man alive that doesn’t understand exactly what a nut-shot is, and, with very few exceptions, none who would ever want it, or seek it out, or go out ‘asking’ for it. Most importantly, no man confuses getting kicked in the nuts with sex. It’s very clearly violence, even though it involves sex organs.'
'The idea of growing up in a society where getting hoofed in the balls is normalized behavior, systematically if tacitly allowed by a complicit society, and frequently confused with a pleasurable activity like sex, would rightfully be horrifying to any guy. I can’t imagine women’s rage today, but this exercise, while abstract, helped me get nearer to it than I’d been.’
Moxon's post was then enhanced/illustrated by a series of tweets posted by 'Julius Ghost'. To see this illuminating flow, follow this link to boredpanda.com :
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