From swearing to insults to lack of a timely response to emails or texts, most of us have experienced rudeness in some form or another at home, at work, or online. Much of the research examining rudeness has focused on its negative effects and with good reason – there are plenty of them.

We know that rudeness is a stressor with adverse impact on both our physical and mental health well-being. Rudeness is both insidious and a wholly negative experience.

So how come we tolerate it with such ease in today’s fast paced existence. 


Most research studies indicate that we are caught up in the ‘if you can’t beat them, join them’ syndrome, in turn allowing anxiety stressors to build and build, until breaking point.

Hardly a desirable strategy wouldn’t you agree!


Unfortunately, very limited, unless you count dumping family, friends and colleagues who don’t respond to your recent text or email, as a positive move!

In our current society the only sure way of getting a response is if there is ‘something in it for the recipient’! If not, or if asking for a favour, then FORGET IT!

The irony is that the actual ‘anxiety’ is fuelled by the ‘ambiguity’. The sender is not sure if the recipient got the message, the anxiety then manifests itself as uncertainty, combined with worrying about resending and the associated ‘being a nuisance’ factor!


In the ideal world we would all understand the social niceties, responding with a quick ‘got it, I’ll let you know’, or better still in today’s emoji filled vocabulary, a quick ‘thumbs up’ emoji.

This simple act alone would remove over 90% of the anxiety caused to the sender.


Oh yes, I can here the screams of outrage from the ‘time poor’ recipients who feel wholly justifiable in blaming their inherent rudeness on ‘being far to busy, what with work, social media and family, to respond to every text or email!’.

BREAKING NEWS: It takes no more than 2 seconds to SMS a ‘Thumbs up’ emoji, (it is actually plumbed in as an auto-reply option with most messaging systems), or no more than 5 seconds to send a ‘Got it, thanks’ email reply.

For my part I am going to add my own emoji to all my emails and texts, as in the picture above, as a not so subtle reminder to the recipient to be a ‘tad more mindful of others’. Please feel free to adopt this initiative so we can help all those that suffer with ambiguity related anxiety.

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👍👍 You are so correct! It seems that everyone has plenty of time for Facebook, Instagram and all the other social media but to get a simple reply to a simple question can sometimes seem like getting blood out of a stone! I will also endeavour to respond more promptly or to just to respond! 😇
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